Abner said to David, “Let me arise and go and gather all Israel to my lord the king, that they may make a covenant with you, and that you may be king over all that your soul desires.” So David sent Abner away, and he went in peace.
2 Samuel 3:21
This section of the book opens with reminding me that there was war between the houses of Saul and David and that Abner was the driving force behind the house of Saul. The very next thing mentioned is a controversy around one of Saul’s concubines. Ish-Bosheth accuses Abner of sleeping with the woman and Abner is so offended by the accusation that he vows to bring all of Israel under David’s reign. So Abner gets the ball rolling and David demands that Michal — definitely the first woman to whom he was engaged and maybe his first wife — be brought to him. Abner and Ish-Bosheth make that happen and Abner and David have a peaceful conference about transitioning the rule of Israel completely over to David. This section ends with Abner leaving David’s presence peacefully.
Ish-Bosheth serves as a reminder that accusations against loyal friends need to come with some serious credentials. The Bible does not comment on whether or not the accusation against Abner was true, it only tells me that Abner was so offended by the accusation that he switched sides in the conflict.
Let me learn from the error of a worthless man (Ish-Bosheth) and be certain that any accusation I entertain against those who have been loyal to me have a firm foundation.
Father, thank You for this reminder and the story of how dire the consequences can be. Please give me a mind and heart that believe the best of those who have been loyal to me and skeptical of accusations against them.